Heather and I have been talking about where we want to live. I want to stay here in Bucks County for another year and save up some money so we can buy a house and eventually, rent it out.
Heather wants to move to Maryland in preperation for being closer to her family. Being near Baltimore would keep us near her mom and little brother, closer to her sister, and eventually, maybe, if the stars align themselves correctly when they look for a job, Heather's older brother and sister-in-law...(hey guys)
Also, we'd be closer to my half-sister and her husband and their daughter, which means we'd have more kids to play with.
All of this is good, but I'm not crazy about moving to Maryland. It would add 20 minutes to my commute. I would be under severe restrictions as far as getting a gun. The area's crime-ridden (maybe because people can't get guns?), traffic's abhorrent, and prices are typically higher, though I can't see them much, if at all higher than the Philly area.
I don't know. We're going to drive down this weekend and poke around. My fear is that even if we move down there it's not going to do anything to make Heather happy. She's not happy here, but she can't tell me what would make her happy and that's frustrating. I'm not frustrated with her, I just want to see her happy, and I'm frustrated that I can't give that to her.
She asked me the other day what I wanted and my answer was "My goal in life is this: I don't care what happens, I just don't want to hear you complain." It was supposed to be a joke, and she laughed and called me a jerk, but in part, it's serious. I can put up with a lot of unhappy if it means my wife is happy, which means the kids will be happy, which means things will feel more pleasant in the house.
So, will we pick up and move again? It might happen
Get out of Philly...not that it's any surprise to hear me say this, but Philly sucks! Come back to Harrisburg...well, that's the selfish part of me saying that cuz I would like having you nearby to hang out with every now and then, but realistically, your family and their needs will come first. Just don't stay in Philthy...Maryland could be alright. Good luck in your decision making, and I will not leave inane messages on yours like you do on mine. hehe ;-)
Move out of Philly.
We don't want you here.